The Shadow effect

When acting becomes a behavior, or when the behavior is an act, it is when the personality is nothing more than a kind of time bomb. It is one thing to go to a movie of a genre that we don’t like but our partner does, and it’s another thing to commit to watch an entire 100-part soap opera. Doing what we don’t like by pretending to like it or giving up doing what we do like by pretending that it doesn’t affect us at all, just to be accepted, valued, by someone or by a social group implies lying to ourselves.

This lying to ourselves is like going in the wrong direction to the right direction and the more wrong it is, the more collision risk it will generate. Ignorance of oneself usually implies denial and/or repression of those factors that are part of our nature but which have been hidden by social conditioning. After ten years of marriage, for example, if one of the spouses falls in love with another person again, how easy would it be to accept it and act on it? Socially, it seems easier to deny or repress this new crush and keep it in the shadows.

It is normal for us to be burdened with family impositions (first social bond) that we ignore become a generator of negative energy. The father who exercises such a profession and pressures his son to follow the same profession, the daughter who is given the same name as the mother or grandmother, are a sample of chains that are often unconsciously worn and from which the wearer seeks to free themselves, but, as they do not really know that are there, the movements, the shocks, do not have an organized direction, so they will continue to be there indefinitely.

Thus, many times we not only carry our father’s or mother’s name, we not only follow their career, but we have even spent our childhood doing the same sports activities as them, without even knowing it, without even realizing that in reality it was not our will, even though we have stood out in this or that artistic or sports manifestation. It is then understood that there can be a part of us that is not realized, and a consequent acrimony, even anger, that we project on others without realizing it. Without noticing it, we admire and detest each other as much as we do ourselves.

That we are «unique and unrepeatable» means that we are born with our own design, for which there are things that are compatible and incompatible. If I am committed to celibacy but that is not really my thing, sooner or later it will end in harm. If it’s not my thing to be subject to one person, but I sign and commit myself «until death do us part», that will end up in some crisis. Of course, everything is treatable, and those who fear heights can be trained to endure them, but not to be happy in them.

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