Who are the first people we’ve had problems with? Well, in the natural order of things, our parents. Logically, our first memories, too, are from our parents. During our early years it is through our parents that we receive the first lessons, the first blocks of certain and indisputable information. One of these blocks, schematized within an entire system, is that of guilt, which, like any weapon, can be used both for evil and for evil, although sometimes, and rarely, for evil. Right, guilt never optimizes anyone.
The faulty scheme serves to burden another with the burden of one’s own mediocrity, basically. «Society is to blame,» but society is to be blamed on all of us. «It’s the government’s fault,» yes, but the government is the people’s choice, and the people are all of us. «It’s your mother’s fault,» well, «but you chose my mother, father.” «It’s the school’s fault», of course, of course, but who chose that school? «It’s the priest’s fault», obviously, but where were you when it was possible to choose another priest? The weather is to blame, my lady.
The point with the guilt scheme is that there is always someone, or something, to whom, or what, to blame, which allows us to project our own mediocrities, errors, and «shadows», into other people or things, this is the glorious point from which, once born and educated in it, it is almost impossible to detach ourselves. You’re not born a smoker, you’re not born a whisker, you’re not born a fucker, to tell you the truth, or a sexist. One becomes a smoker, a whisker, a fucker and a sexist along the way; as well as a guilty and a guilty person, by his own decision, without anyone forcing him. But following a custom.
As is customary, it is easy to follow, because it is safe, because it is what is worn, what everyone wears and wears. The insecure thing is to go through life saying that «what happens to you is because you want it to happen to you». That’s where they jump around your neck. No one tells you, «I’m an alcoholic because it’s my choice,»»I’m addicted to tobacco for fun,»»I’m obese by choice». In these examples, those involved are not to blame for their conduct, no; the culprits are external agents. This is where the word that solves everything should come from: responsibility.
Let’s do a self-analysis and see if we remember one, a few, several, or many times when we remind our parents to take responsibility for some mistake – is it easy to remember our parent saying «I was wrong»? Moreover, how many bosses, co-workers, brothers, friends, we know that at the moment of an error, instead of assuming responsibility, it seems that even as if by reflection they are able to find a circumstance, a cause that proves that they were not, that they were not the cause of the error, that they were in no way «the guilty ones», the bearers of «guilt», of «sin»?
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